Let’s get cookin

Posted in Marriage Monday

One of my favorite things to do with Matt is cook together. We are no chef’s, but we like to try new things a lot and are taking advantage of this time when we both have our hands free with no school, no kiddos, and (somewhat) sane minds. Cooking may not seem like the most extravagant of events, but I will say, we have had more laughs, more deep conversations, and more flirting (TMI, sorry) in the kitchen than in any other place in our home.

(Tonight we made turkey swedish meatballs. For the recipe, go HERE.)

One of the greatest “complaints” I have heard recently  has had to deal with not having enough time with one another. Many couples I talk to are frustrated with their lack of time with the other, and with the time that they do have together. “We never do anything special…” is one I hear a lot.

So let’s define special…

A thing, such as an event, product, or broadcast, that is designed or organized for a particular occasion or purpose. 


First the noun form. An event with purpose… should not all of our daily events exude purpose? How much more so should we strive for purpose in our marriages? Whether it’s cooking with your husband or wife, or helping them with the dishes. Each event has potential of purpose, which in turn has the potential to be special.

Better, greater, or otherwise different from what is usual: “a special effort” 


You may be thinking that cooking, cleaning, or something of that sort is not necessarily a “better, greater or otherwise different” event than usual, but how can you make it so? I LOVE the ending of this definition: “A special effort”. It is not necessarily the act that is special, but the effort behind it. Even when sitting on the couch watching TV, one can make a special effort to give their spouse a backrub. I can guarantee you that you can find a way to make anything special, no matter how normal or “un-fun” it may be.

For those of you with children, this is even more important. Your time is stretched and each interaction with your spouse is critical. Seek to make every amount of time you have with them special. Make a competition out of who changes the next diaper… or make it a goal to give the baby a bath together each night… make your pillow talk time count each night, even if you have a list of topics to go through taped onto your nightstand. No matter what you do, children or no children, seek to make your time purposeful with your spouse.

Remember, no condemnation, but make every second that you can count!

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