Be Present.

Posted in Marriage Monday with 3 comments

The beginning. The beginning of our marriage was great. The beginning brought so much excitement. The beginning had great sex. The beginning held so much hope and promise for the future. The beginning… where did time go? The beginning…

The future. The future is scary. The future holds things I am too unsure of. The future may lead our now teenager to his breaking point. The future may not include a spouse in my life anymore. The future may be overtaken with credit card debt. The future….

Yesterday. Yesterday he made me so mad. Yesterday he once again neglected the lawn, was late home from work, and watched the basketball game instead of helping me get the kids to bed. Yesterday…

Tomorrow? Tomorrow I don’t know what we are going to do. Tomorrow might be the end. Tomorrow may be the day that she actually manages to spend the rest of our money. Tomorrow is a day that she thinks way too little about and tomorrow, I think I might just end it all. Tomorrow…

What happened to today? What happened to now?

If you are like me, you know that living in the here-and-now is harder than it would seem. I’ve really spent most of my life looking for the next step… I couldn’t wait to be 16, then 18, then 21, then 25… I couldn’t wait to finish high school, then college, then grad school, then find a successful career…. I couldn’t wait for tomorrow on a bad day, then the month after that hard thing I just went through, then the year later when I hoped the past would be just a memory…

Why is it so easy for us to live in the past? A past full of either memories of hardship and mistakes or of an amazing time in our lives that we will never again return to? And why is it so easy to try and live in the future? The far off time where we don’t know for sure what will happen. A time that we can plan for as much as we’d like, but that can be completely different than anything we ever dreamt in nearly a minute’s time?

The past and the future can be our best friends and our greatest enemies and I’m here to encourage you in this… live today.

Live this hour, live this moment, and live this second.

Live this hardship you are going through, and trust that God will use your struggle. Do not run from it.

Live this joyous time that may soon be fleeting. Not out of fear, but out of the grace and blessing that the Lord has given.

Forget the fight that you had with your husband or your wife yesterday, and do not focus on what your marriage will look like tomorrow… simply look at what you can do to improve your marriage right now.

There are times to look back and remember. There are times to look forward and plan. But every moment should be a time in which we can be thankful, that we can love our husband or our wife, and that we can say “how can we be better today?”

Don’t miss the opportunity that the Lord has given you in today. Don’t miss the blessings He has laid out for you in this hour. And please, open your eyes to His glory that is right in front of your eyes this very moment.

Be present, my friends.

Be present.


Matthew 6:34- Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Philippians 3:13-14- Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,  I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

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  1. Robyn Gibson

    Great insights. The words to only look at what “I” can do, forces my view off of my husband’s ‘wrongs’ and puts the responsibility for me, as the wife in the marriage, back where it belongs … with me.

    Thank you for sharing.

  2. Elizabeth@Warrior Wives

    This was so beautiful…and so true. It is hard to live in the present and yet still have that eternal perspective that will keep us from being too entrenched in this world. Somehow we need to live now and remember that what we do now has ramifications and rewards in eternity.

  3. viviene

    The last two verses you shared were the same verses read at our church on Sunday! I’m so guilty of not enjoying the “today”. I keep looking at tomorrow and sadly sometimes worrying…

    Thanks for this great reminder!