Matt and I are entering into our final week of being a family of 2. Our little boy is due March 24th and at this point has 3 options: 1. Come early any time this week. 2. Come right on time and we will see you Sunday. 3. Be late and possibly make us take measures to come and get you ourselves. I’m quite content with him in there and I think he may be feeding off of me because he seems pretty snug himself. While I can’t wait to meet him, I think part of my contentment (other than just wanting him to be healthy and come when he is ready) is the sweet time Matt and I have been enjoying together in these last few weeks.
We have always made spending time together a priority. We have our weekly date nights (those are going to look a little different soon), we always make a point to have time to talk about our days, and we generally just enjoy being together anyway. But these last few weeks have been different. Nothing amazing. No great trips or incredible activities, just us. Knowing that Isaac (our little guy) could come any time has seemed to make us that much more deliberate about our time together. It has made us see each other in a new light. We know it is going to be different soon, and we are going to fully take in all that we have to offer one another. It has helped us to not take one another for granted and to really enjoy every moment.
Like I said, we were never bad at spending time together, but this intentional time has just been special and it makes me wish that we could go back and spend every moment together like we have been. There is a sweetness to it like none other and I know I will never forget this time together.
Maybe you have children and can remember a time like this before they came around. Do you still have those times today? I can only imagine (though I will find out soon) how hard it can be to keep a sweet time like this going when you have a baby crying, a toddler running, or a teenager screaming in the other room. But it makes me wonder (and hope) that there is a way to make it happen. It may not be for weeks at a time like ours has been lately, but my prayer is that intentional, sweet time with you spouse can still happen post-children.
For those without kids (and not expecting any yet), what does this look like for you? Maybe you have gotten past that honeymoon period and you are finding yourselves in the “now what?” stage. Are these intentional moments ever happening for you? Maybe its a long dinner with just the two of you, talking on the patio of a restaurant on a beautiful Spring night, or it could simply be one of you coming to the other, looking into your spouse’s eyes and saying “I love you” while meaning each and every word.
My prayer is that this does not stop for us. As I said, it is an intentional sweetness. A purposeful, planned time. This means we cannot sit around and wait for it to happen. I can hope all day long that our post-baby days will have some of these sweet pre-baby moments but unless we both choose to make it happen, it won’t. This has been a conversation we have had often in these “final days” and something we are both committed to. I encourage you to have a similar conversation. Don’t let a baby or some other major life event be a reason to stop you from having a purposeful time of sweetness in your marriage. And don’t let it be a reason to start either. Wherever you are at in life (kids/no kids, newly married/married for years), choose now to have that intentional, meaningful time with your beloved. I promise it will be a time you will forever cherish.