There is one thing I write in every wedding card I give, any guest book I sign, and any bridal shower note of encouragement I fill out. I say this same thing to any pre-marital counseling clients I see, to every couple of whom I am coordinating their wedding, and to any bride I am helping to plan her special day. It is just four simple words that I say to any friend, relative, acquaintance, or even stranger I know that is getting married. Those four words are this: Marriage is a blessing.
It may sounds like a regular, well meaning wish like “Congratulations!” but I mean so much behind those four “simple” words. I want that couple to remember them. I want them to hold on to their truth when times get rough. I never want them to forget just an honor it is to be a husband or a wife.
Unfortunately our world paints a different picture. A picture of a ball and chain or a whip that is controlled by the wife to bring down her husband. A picture of a lazy husband who never helps out. Endless images depicted on television, movies, and music of couples who endlessly bicker and struggle with one another. A constant false reminder that marriage only pulls you down, does not allow you to have fun, and binds you together with another whether you like them forever or not.
These pictures of marriage sadden me and honestly scare me at times. If this is what the future generation of one-day married individuals are seeing and believing, what will the future of marriage look like? But I don’t think it needs to be this way.
Marriage is a blessing. God designed it that way. From the beginning of human existence He saw that man needed a helper (Genesis 2). Someone to love him, someone to share in his life, and someone to walk along side him through good times and bad. Marriage is a blessing. It is a constant reminder of just how much Christ loves us and sacrificed for us (Ephesians 5). Marriage is a blessing. It is a union so strong and so powerful, that it burrows itself into the depths of our hearts.
I hope this will be a reminder to you. Marriage is not perfect (or should I say, it’s participants are not). It is not easy. Marriage takes work and is a lifelong process.
Marriage is a blessing.