How’s married life been going lately? Are you happy with your spouse? Are they meeting your needs? On a scale from 1-10, 10 being the happiest, where would you rank your marriage?
Have you ever thought, though, that the point of your marriage may not be to make you happy?
I’ll be honest, I don’t always think this way. In fact, as the selfish sinner that I am, I often think (even if subconsciously) that Matt’s job is to make me happy. That marriage was designed for my own purposes rather than the Lord’s, and that if I’m not happy, something isn’t right. Please tell me I’m not alone here! It’s just so easy to look at our own desires than to look at what God wants for our lives.
So what is the purpose of marriage? Perhaps instead of making us happy, the point is to make us holy. Not to meet our own hopes, but to fulfill God’s hope and plan for us. And not to grant us someone that will serve us, but to give us someone who we can serve. The purpose of marriage isn’t for our own happiness, but for God’s glory and to selflessly love someone other than ourselves.
Ephesians 5:33 says “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Let this be our challenge. Not for our own good, but for the good of the one God paired us with. And not for happiness, but for holiness. In verse 32 of Ephesians 5, God likens marriage to His love and sacrifice for His church. What a beautiful picture of how we also can look at our own marriage and to strive to be more like Christ. It’s a lifelong journey to lay down your life for your spouse, but the eternal rewards are glorious.
How can you selflessly love your spouse this week? How can you put them first and think of serving the Lord rather than being served? When you are not feeling happy in your marriage, is there something you can do to put your focus on serving and becoming more holy rather than steaming and becoming more frustrated?
This is a short post with a big challenge. What is the purpose of YOUR marriage?