I interrupt my “Little Things, BIG Difference” series to celebrate something very special.
We have reached year 7 in our marriage today! How did that happen? Where did the time go?!
I thought about sharing 7 things I have learned in our 7 years, but as I sat on it I realized that it really all boils down to this:
Marriage does not get easier, but it does get better [if you let it].
This year has been challenging. The infamous “they” do not lie when saying that your first year after your first child will be one of the most difficult. We have been through some of our lowest lows. Grief, hard decisions, struggles, providing for a family of three, and juggling life as both parents and spouses definitely took a toll on our relationship at different times throughout this last year. I can look back and say that it was good, and that we have grown, but I can also say that it had some rough moments.
Here’s the thing. We were not promised an easy life, and most certainly not an easy marriage. “Happily ever after” is something in books and movies and while I LOVE being married and do believe each marriage can be happy. It will not be ALL the time.
But after all that this year brought and looking back through each of our experiences in the last 7 years, I would never trade a thing. We are better for it and are closer because of the good and the bad that we have been through together. We choose to hold on and to not let go when times are hard. We focus on the One who created marriage and attempt to give Him the glory in the ups and the downs.
It has not gotten easier year to year, and I never expect it to as we continue forward, but man is it good. I would not trade walking through life with my best friend for anything in the world. It’s always a choice to allow the good and the bad to make us stronger and better, and we will continue to choose the better for the next 7,14, 35, 70… years.
Each choice for the better is a hard one, but each reaps rewards that I could never put into words. The Lord knew what He was doing when He created marriage and while we stray from His plan from time to time, it is always so sweet when we are walking with Him.
I love you, Matt. Happy Anniversary! Here’s to walking hand in hand through rose petals to the very end.
John 16:33b- In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.